How God Chooses Parents for His Most Precious Children
If you're holding this book, your world has been shattered in the most unthinkable way. Your child is gone. This isn't about getting over your grief—it's about understanding what really happened when your child lived and died.
"For Peanut - who showed me what it means to be picked by God for the hardest and most sacred job in the world. You're still teaching me, baby girl."
This book isn't about getting over your grief. You never will, and you shouldn't. This is about understanding what really happened.
When my daughter Emily died at twenty-five, everything I thought I knew about God, about life, about love, got blown apart. But here's what I discovered in the wreckage: what happened to your child wasn't random. It wasn't cruel fate or bad luck or God looking the other way.
You were chosen for this. Not chosen to suffer—chosen for something far more sacred and profound. Chosen to love one of God's own children during their time on earth. Chosen to be their safe harbor, their fierce protector, their way back home.
Your child wasn't just your child. They were heaven's child, sent on a mission that only they could complete, and they needed a parent who could love them the way God loves them—completely, sacrificially, all the way through death and beyond.
Before I tell you my story, I need you to know something: you cannot survive this alone. Nobody can.
Call it what it is: you're furious. Burning with an anger so hot it surprises you when it erupts.
Grief doesn't follow any rules. It doesn't stay in neat categories or follow a timeline someone made up in a textbook.
If you haven't faced the funeral yet, brace yourself: it will be the second hardest day of your life.
People are going to lie to you about healing. They're going to tell you it gets easier, that time heals all wounds.
When your child dies, that compass doesn't just spin—it explodes. The entire magnetic field of your life gets scrambled.
We were chosen, and I need you to understand what that means.
We've been looking at this all wrong. We've been asking "Why did my child have to die?" when the real question is different.
This book is given away freely as part of my own healing journey. If it has helped you and you feel led to support the mission, you can do so below.
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If you're in immediate crisis, please reach out:
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988
Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
The Compassionate Friends: compassionatefriends.org
Crisis Support: If you are experiencing thoughts of self-harm or suicide, please seek immediate help. Contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988).
Professional Care Required: This book is not a substitute for professional mental health care. The author strongly recommends that all readers seek licensed counseling, therapy, or pastoral care.
Individual Grief Journey: Every person's experience of grief is unique. Your grief is your own, and it deserves to be honored exactly as it is.
This book is offered freely as part of my own healing journey.
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